On the Dear Sugars podcast, the hosts consulted Esther Perel about a letter they received. Because Perel has seen so many couples and counseled specifically on sex, she has a unique perspective on the relationship described in the letter.
The hosts were inclined to tell the letter writer to drop her sexless relationship – but Perel widened the dialogue. She pointed out that often in cases such as these when men weren’t sexually engaged with their partners that they tended to be really great men. They’re caring and generous. They make coffee for their partners. They empathize with their loved ones’ frustrations. They just seem to have a block about being sexually intimate with their romantic partners.
When Perel described these men, she said something like “These are good men.”
Here stands the man, good.
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