While I feel pretty sure that this wouldn’t be the first question I would ask upon learning that a loved one had drowned, I do recognize that many unlikely questions or thoughts arise in a moment like this.
I mean – let’s say I heard my beloved was in a fatal car accident. The street it happened on wouldn’t be nearly so important as what happened – and how it happened. But I suppose the question of where does help us place on unfathomable event. It helps us imagine the unimaginable. If I cannot imagine my loved one dead, at least I might be able to imagine the place. If I cannot believe it, at least the place will ground the sense of it SOMEWHERE.