I’m not a parent and I don’t spend a lot of time with small children lately but something I have noticed is how readily they will respond to an invitation. If you offer a place to go, if it sounds fun, they will follow. They don’t have to know what it is or choose it necessarily. But one can get anywhere with an invitation to run or skip or slide.
Enforcements are not so productive. Try to get a child to do something by your will and the child will quickly dig in her heels. Why would they ever do something they did not want to? There is nothing stopping them following their every whim. Except of course, safety – except of course, limits. Of course – except social structure.
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