It works this way for so many things, doesn’t it?
The harder we try to be free, the more bound we become. The harder we push, the less freedom we have.
The more fiercely we resist our fate, the tighter its hold on us.
Surrender is loosening the ties that bind us.
I feel this all the time in my Feldenkrais work – just trying and trying to get the movement right until I finally surrender and just rest a moment, then things click in to place. Or they don’t – and I do – and I don’t mind as much. Win win.