It does feel as though stasis will tend to win. Single people tend to stay single. Married people, even if they split, will tend to stay married. I’ve been in a relationship for coming up on five years and I still feel sort of single – I think like a single person. If I imagine losing my partnership, it feels as though I’d just return to my natural state of individual-ness. I’m 40 and spent most of those 30 years on my own, with a few brief interludes of relationship. I know how to do it. Probably better than I know how to be in relationship.
For many of my friends, though, they default to relationship. When they lose one, they slide quite easily to the next.
We tend to keep as we are. Even though the nature of things is to change.